tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post6778859875293460975..comments2023-11-03T05:20:30.265-07:00Comments on Whopping Cornbread: "In a relationship"Norahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16507644743409364179noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-11201683660576004502009-03-17T09:11:00.000-07:002009-03-17T09:11:00.000-07:00This was how we learned our college freshman son h...This was how we learned our college freshman son had a girlfriend. When he changed his facebook relationship.Glennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03681336164718681936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-47505548877576261432009-03-08T20:57:00.000-07:002009-03-08T20:57:00.000-07:00When I was in school, we did the class ring thing....When I was in school, we did the class ring thing. The girl would wear it on her forefinger so it didn't look like her own class ring. I've always wished that "pinning" was still in when I was dating, though. I like the word and I think wearing a pin is more elegant. I guess I am a 1950s sweater girl in disguise :-).Dani In NChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032707452740200776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-65766478513926667712009-03-05T11:01:00.000-08:002009-03-05T11:01:00.000-08:00I don't know about your facebook, but if someone's...I don't know about your facebook, but if someone's relationship status changes, I see it for days in my little 'friends updates' window. I mean, DAYS.Jen's Farmilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16066311009933923372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-19303010891660147702009-03-04T18:06:00.000-08:002009-03-04T18:06:00.000-08:00I love FB, but it is it's very wierd own little un...I love FB, but it is it's very wierd own little universe.Madgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14905740781186585499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-52924417317649559202009-03-04T09:59:00.000-08:002009-03-04T09:59:00.000-08:00We used masking tape to keep the ring on.Any girl ...We used masking tape to keep the ring on.<BR/><BR/>Any girl my son was dating would have to wait a long time for him to change his status--cause he knows that then I would know and his aunts and uncles and cousins and brother and sisters would know and he's sure as hell not going to go through that until he's ready to get married!Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-91971946572258465172009-03-04T08:27:00.000-08:002009-03-04T08:27:00.000-08:00You keep writing posts like this and we have to st...You keep writing posts like this and we have to start affixing the "Voice of a Generation" label to your writings. Loved it.<BR/><BR/>Still thinking of how we could pitch the "Bad Wife Chronicles" for TV development.Keith Baronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15314122898436630647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-19202932973862073902009-03-03T18:12:00.000-08:002009-03-03T18:12:00.000-08:00Too much for me as an old lady. I did love your po...Too much for me as an old lady. I did love your post.<BR/>Wall flower here in high school, scared as shit if a "boy" looked at me. Oh, my.<BR/>Hoping all is well with your decisions. A hug to Hugo from me.ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18245099394863979981noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-72389907502436970742009-03-03T15:09:00.000-08:002009-03-03T15:09:00.000-08:00And in my practice, I work with people on FB and M...And in my practice, I work with people on FB and MySpace skills, or skills to cope with the fact that he won't move me to the number one spot, etc. Not the kind of training we got in grad school, but here we are. The times they are a changin'.<BR/><BR/>but like you, in HS we didn't have any sort of pinning or visible declaration of a relationship. I think it might have solved a few issues. Might have prevented some of the pretending to be involved when they actually weren't willing to present it publicly. These FB and MS social networking sites might help people get the kind of feedback they need to make a healthy decision.shrink on the couchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13271891110211081990noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-18207154311745019592009-03-03T13:11:00.000-08:002009-03-03T13:11:00.000-08:00I am on Facebook, but when JNK and I started datin...I am on Facebook, but when JNK and I started dating, he wasn't. I still took the relationship status thing pretty seriously. And I realized, it was mostly because I feel like saying that you're "single" is also saying you're available. If you're not, you just don't have a status on there at all.<BR/><BR/>I had a friend recently go from "single" to "is not longer listed as single." Inquiries abound! But she later updated her status to say she was just not wanting to label herself as single - it did <I>not</I> mean she was in a relationship.<BR/><BR/>So when JNK and I started dating, I made the error of going back and forth about it. I was too new to FB to realize this made me "look" like there was drama in my life - when in reality, there was a pleasant lack of drama. And the intent was to take any potential drama out of it. I was taking myself off the market!<BR/><BR/>In the last year I've seen a marriage end on FB and a few relationships end... including one of 5 years, 2 of which I lived in group housing with her/them. They moved off to Hawaii together and I'm thankful for tools like FB to see what they're up to - as she gets her higher ed and he continues to be my go to for all Apple related questions.<BR/><BR/>It's weird. The social-butterfly-wants-to-know-eveybody's-business in me is totally intrigued. Trying to read into clues that something was up before the actual status change. Shocked! On the receiving ends of texts and chats asking if I know any more.<BR/><BR/>Then there's the private-reserved-wants-to-be-respectful-of-everybody's-business part of me that just looks away, closes her eyes, and sends positive vibes their way. Because break-ups suck.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and a little PSA for FB users - you can change your settings as to whether or not you share this info about yourself... you can delete it from your wall as well. <BR/><BR/>Oh, one last thing (I had no idea I had this much to say on the topic!)... JNK did eventually sign up for FB and it felt good to be able to have my "in a relationship" say, specifically, who I was in a relationship with. Cheesy? Sure. But I still liked it.The Ubran Poetesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00658716826402969034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-37867111713004129492009-03-03T10:17:00.000-08:002009-03-03T10:17:00.000-08:00this made me chuckle. I'm a fellow facebooker, but...this made me chuckle. I'm a fellow facebooker, but happily married so I only sit in awe as status's change. <BR/>For instance, I have the one friend who- everytime she gets in a fight with her husband- changes her status to "single" or "it's complicated." <BR/><BR/>ha. <BR/><BR/>I have another friend who is very, well, loose with her love life and is always going from "single" to "it's complicated" to "in a relationship" and it's usually with different people.Mistyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09505420894898738638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-1393327320124258712009-03-03T00:39:00.000-08:002009-03-03T00:39:00.000-08:00LOL...I can't stand Facebook :)Ah yes...those days...LOL...I can't stand Facebook :)<BR/><BR/>Ah yes...those days of dating. We must be around the same age, as I remember that. In our school it was the big thing to wear your boyfriend's lettermans jacket. Frankly, I wasn't a dater in high school. And thankfully I don't have to worry about that now either...not in this era of technology :)Caffienated Cowgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762389337951910204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9043527093315561242.post-26210670824529888282009-03-02T22:56:00.000-08:002009-03-02T22:56:00.000-08:00Yes, it was O.K. Great post, Nora. Funny we were b...Yes, it was O.K. Great post, Nora. Funny we were both writing about FB!JCKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.com